Toeing the line

I was receiving a distance energy healing session yesterday when something the healer said brought up a memory of a past event.

When I was twelve, we had a rule about going to a friend’s house: if the parents weren’t there, I wasn’t allowed to go. Period. I knew not to even bother trying to argue the point.  So, one day my friend invited me over after school. I knew her parents were both elsewhere, but I heard myself saying, “Sure!” and I went anyway.

They had a free-standing couch and while I was talking to my friend, I was standing behind it with my forearms resting on the back of it. I thought it would be fun to pick my feet up off the floor, allowing my weight to cause the couch to start to tip backward and then put my feet back down right at the last minute to keep it from actually tipping over. Keep reading

My fat jeans are too tight!

I am working on losing weight (yes, still; yes again) and it occurred to me that although misery loves company, maybe victory does, too.

Also, I know that accountability is a very important component of achieving any goal–at least, I’ve discovered this truth applies to me.

I decided a week ago that it was time to dust off my Weight Watchers food scale.

I am a health coach and I talk to people every day who say they want to weigh less, but they are not really doing much (if anything) about it. I offer to help them and they decline. Why do they do this?

Because they already know how to do it.

And, let’s face it. Isn’t that the truth? We already know (probably on many levels) what is best for us. We just don’t act on that information. Keep reading

The BRAVE Interview #20 March 2018: Crissy Maier

Here is this month’s BRAVE Interview with Crissy Maier!

  • WHO are you? Someone who overcomes challenges. Whether it’s my cleft lip and palate, my learning disability, my struggles through the police academy, other health issues, problems at work – I’m not defined by any of them, but rather by my ability to integrate the lessons I’ve learned and to find ways to overcome the next challenge I will face.
  • WHAT is your One Brave Thing? Sometimes I wonder if I’ve done it yet. I seem to have succeeded at everything I’ve tried, or at least not failed miserably. I might need to try something harder to really be brave. But when thinking about this question, I’m reminded of my first trip to Europe. I arrived in London, almost got lost going to my hotel even though I had step by step instructions. The next day I got on a hop on and off bus and at the stop in Trafalgar Square I wanted to get off the bus, but I was afraid of getting off the bus. In some ways it was an insignificant moment, but it’s a moment that I’ve reminded myself of many, many times. It’s a moment that inspired an entire chapter of my book.  It took a minute or two to talk myself into it, but I got off the bus at Trafalgar Square. I didn’t venture too far away from the bus stop, but I broke a barrier of fear. I traveled through Europe for two weeks before returning to London. When I did, I was a completely different person, I was taking the Tube to sites that I didn’t know how to get to and navigating the streets of London like I would the streets at home. It’s one of those rare opportunities in life when I got to see how much I had changed in a short period of time. When I’m afraid of something, I often think back to that experience.
  • WHEN did you do it? That was in 2005
  • WHERE did it occur? London and Europe
  • HOW and WHY did you make it happen? The woman who stepped off the plane in London in 2005 was ready for adventure, to see the world. But she was afraid of the unknown, of getting lost. But she was more afraid of missing out, or being a “failure.” When fear holds us back, sometimes we need to break down what the fear is, and what the realistic ‘bad’ outcome is. When we think of it logically, it’s usually not nearly as bad as it seems. It’s not always easy to do, it takes time and discipline. More importantly though, I think knowing why you want to do something, and the cost of not doing it, can be enough to give you the discipline needed to overcome the fear you have. If I wasn’t committed to seeing London (in one day), then maybe I wouldn’t have gotten off the bus and found out that it’s not so scary to face your fear.
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